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BullyingBullying is described as an act of intentionally causing harm to others through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion such as manipulation. This definition by itself is sick and sickening. I can’t imagine anything worse than this form of abuse. There are many forms of bullying. Most people think of kids and school immediately they hear of the word bully. It doesn’t end there unfortunately. Let me categorize it in stages of growth.
Children This abusive behavior starts at an early age. I remember when my son was three, and got bullied for the first time in crčche I felt so hopeless. Kids can be so cruel because of how they are raised. The perpetrator was actually aggressive with all kids in his group. And sadly he was raised in a non-structured household.
Get into the habit of asking your little-one specific questions every day. “Whom did you play with?”, ”Who beat you at school/ home?”, “How was school today?”, “What did teacher say to you?”, “Who are your friends?”. At that age you need to ask questions that are easy to understand. It works wonders for me and I am able to get pieces of information and put the puzzle together. Build your child’s self confidence and let them know that they are loved and can tell you of anything. I must emphasize that kids that are from balanced, secured and loving families are seldom bullied and can overcome it. Shaky relationships with parents, between parents, with siblings, etc can lead to children being insecure and with low self esteem. This makes them vulnerable to all forms of abuse outside their homes. Remember that abuse can lead to depression and even suicide. You have to help your child get a solution.
Youth This gets worse with teens. The reality is that the teens who bully others are acting out in order to be viewed as strong and powerful. They are actually very envious of others and full of resentment. This could be because they themselves were abused or just wish to have what their victims have. It could be brains, family or financial security.
If you are bullied at school, report it immediately to the adult who cares. It may be a teacher, your parent or any other adult. There are some youth support groups that are formed against bullying. Find one in your area as the offer efficient programs. Remember that bullying is a criminal offence, you can also press charges against the perpetrator.
Workplace It is not surprising that there are severe acts of bullying in the workplace. It makes sense and is actually logical because a bully toddler will easily become a bully teenager and a bully adult if no attention is paid. There are a lot of abuse opportunities in the workplace unfortunately. People use their positions to victimize their juniors all the time.
Some people don’t really know their rights and therefore leave the perpetrator to continue abusing them. When they challenge this behavior, they are further victimized and it becomes an ugly rollercoaster.
When you are bullied at work but within the rules and policies of the organization, get yourself out of your job as soon as you can. No job is worth your life and sanity. You may end up in a mental institution for abuse or worse dead. Y0our life is more important. Featured BooksChildren and Bullying How parents can help their children deal with being bullied. Stopping Bullies & Bullying The Complete Guide to Understanding, Controlling, and Stopping Bullies & Bullying. Adult Bullying When Adults are being bullied. How to handle being bullied as an adult.
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