Care giving to a Sick Loved One

Most of us find ourselves with a burden of care giving to our sick and frail parents, kids, siblings or even grand parents at some point in our lives. It is a burden that we choose, love to have or sometimes the only option. We sometimes tend to neglect our selves in the process of caring for an ill family member.

The following are a few tips on care giving for yourself and others whilst giving care to a sick loved one:

1. The Pain.
When faced with a physical pain of a suffering family member you suffer a great deal of emotional pain. Learn not to neglect your own emotional pain, as it seems less intense compared to the physical pain of your sick loved one. Get help by talking to a friend or other family members or seek professional help.
2. Physical Pain.
Care giving for the sick can very exhausting. Take time off, and get rest. Let another relative who is willing to help relieve you and even take the sick loved-one to their home. Get your rest for a few days and keep in touch with the previously neglected areas in your life. Make this a habit and get as many people to relieve you as possible.
3. Guilt Feelings.
Caregivers always find ways to blame themselves. When things go wrong they are quick to point out at how they were at fault. “If only I paid more attention”. Don’t feel guilty for being yourself, getting a well-deserved break, expressing your feelings, etc. You are also affected by the pain and need to vent out and just be.
4. Other People.
Your relationships may suffer because you are the primary caregiver of your loved one. You must consciously make an effort to reach out to your other loved-ones. It’s easy to lose important relationships when faced with caring for an ill family member. People may feel neglected and view you as a selfish person. Your time out should include dining out with friends; quality time with your family and the most well planned me-time.
5. Coping Strategies.
Get as much help as you possible can. Get caring friends and family members to help. Get support groups or form one. Ask for financial help from your siblings if caring for a parent. Make arrangements for your other loved ones, like a friend to transport your kids to school; a relative cooking you dinner once a week; a night out with your spouse once a week; etc.

When someone offers to help, accept the help. It will relieve you of the extra stress. Let the caring not become a heavy burden. Your own wellness comes first.

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