Disciplining Toddlers

Disciplining toddlers could be the most challenging of all parenting decisions for that age group. Kids aged two to three always try to “push-it” as far as they can, to get their way. Throwing temper tantrums around is their favorite past time. It seems even more so when it gets onto you.

The most important lesson for your child is distinguishing between right and wrong. Your role is providing proper guidance to achieving this goal. This is the guidance which will shape your child’s character for the rest of his life. Toddler stage is a critical stage for a parent to set a firm foundation.

How to Discipline a Toddler

Reward good behavior. The basis for discipline is set when a good behaviour is acknowledged and properly rewarded. Focusing on what is positive is very healthy for you and your child. Catch your child doing the right thing and let him/her know you appreciate it by congratulating him, offering a hug, clapping hands, etc.

Realistic. Your set rules are to be appropriate for your child’s age. Some parents expect too much from their kids. The toddlers are generally curious about anything they see. They will want to touch and even taste. Keep things out of reach of them.

Consistency. Raising a child is unfortunately not a trial and error process. You have to make up your mind and get it the right way the first time. A two year old is not able to understand why the rules have changed and get confused if he is subjected to conflicting conditions. Set rules and stick to them.

Parents agreement. Both parents are to stick to the same rules and disciplinary measures. Different rules confuse the child again. If you disagree, sort that out in private and always have the same tone when dealing with your child.

Leading by example. Even at this age, leading by example is very important. Kids of 2 or 3 years like screaming and they must not find you shouting. Be calm always and solve problems in a quiet way. Disciplining toddlers is supposed to be based on how we as adults behave.

Definitely no spanking. Spanking has always been used as a disciplinary measure of choice. At the same time, research has proven that spanking can be very destructive for your child. Using alternative forms of punishment instead to avoid teaching your child that violence is an acceptable solution to problems.

Extinction. Extinction works well for toddlers. Just ignore your child whenever she does what is unacceptable. Remember to reward good behavior and be consistent.

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