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Parenting by Praising KidsIn praising kids, the reward system has been more abused than in most other relationships. Parents will either neglect rewarding good behavior at all or badly reward it. Some parents use food (very unhealthy in most cases), money, and other materialistic possessions to reward good behaviour. This not only causes children to have bad relationships with food, etc but also creates generally materialistic adults.
A verbal reward should mean a lot to your child: “a well-meant WELL DONE; a shiny star in the forehead; a warmest hug; a hand made card or even a hand written letter” means a lot more than you’ll ever imagine. Rewarding good behaviour builds confidence and shows that you really care. Celebrate your children's success and ALWAYS catch your less successful child in one area doing well in other areas. Success is not only in academic areas.
Remember your children are different and have different qualities, strengths and skills. One child will have an academic career and the other may be destined to be a dancer or artistic. No career choice is above the rest. Celebrate each child’s strength and work with them through their weaknesses.
Praising kids’ good behaviour goes with punishing bad behaviour. Your punishment should involve taking away the freedom (TV time, being put away, etc) according to the age of the child. I don’t encourage spanking kids.
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