     |
Stay at Home Moms Divorce IssuesStay at home moms divorce is much more painful compared to that of working and financially independent women. Interestingly, after divorce, the man's standard of living goes up remarkably while the woman's does the opposite. Something to think about.
There is no right or wrong answer in what women need to do. Those who love working must, and those who are comfortable staying at home must too. Just do what’s best for you and your family. However, don’t let sacrificing your income dent your financial future. Get some form of steady income even if you don’t have a formal job. Family Income From the total family income there is a share for homemaking. This is the income that a fulltime mom needs for her financial freedom. I certainly don’t mean money to buy groceries. I mean money that would otherwise pay for an aupair, helper, crčche, etc. As it is staying at home is priceless, getting some income is just meeting the sacrificing parent halfway.
Secure Future It is a fact that most marriages don’t reach the “death do us part” age. It’s not what we wish for our families but it happens. For fulltime moms this becomes a serious blow. If you don’t have any investments nor pension fund in place you may suffer for the rest of your life. From your “allowance”, pay a monthly amount to the pension fund of your choice, get a couple of investments and secure your future. If your marriage is among the blessed few, your investments will still be a blessing.
Work From Home Look for opportunities to work from home if you can. There are a lot of work from home opportunities. (Our All Time Favourite- opens in new window). Use your talents to offer a service online. Whatever you choose must allow you to spend quality time with your kids.
What Next If your staying at home is for raising kids, have a plan for what you’ll do next. Kids do grow up and you may just need to prepare yourself for that period. If your plan is getting back to work, keep yourself busy with training, once in a while. There is a lot of opportunities to do that through distance education or even online.
Stay at Home Moms Divorce Realities A divorce is a trying period for everyone. However, if you have the skills and have capacitated yourself, it can be much easier to handle. Just sit down with yourself, accept it and plan your future. Fighting it is often not worth it. If you wont have enough finances to support yourself or your kids in the event of a separation, get yourself a job. Your kids are better off with you working.
Stay at Home Moms Divorce Quotes"Love begins by taking care of the closest ones - the ones at home." Mother Teresa
“When defeat comes, accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more toward your coveted goal.” Napoleon Hill
Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." Matthew 19:9-9
"The truth is: we are strong, much stronger than we are able to imagine. That's the reason we pull through." Nombini Kutta-Mathye
“When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn't a sign that they "don't understand" one another, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to.”
Helen Rowland quotes
|
